Expectations.
One of my favorite books of all time is “The Realm of Possibility” by David Levithan. In the book there’s this chapter/story line called “My Girlfriend is in Love with Holden Caulfield”. It’s basically about this guy whose girlfriend is in love with (you guessed it) Holden Caulfield. She spends all her time rereading Catcher in the Rye and trying her hardest to make Holden real. She even compares her boyfriend to him and makes him want to be Holden just for her sake. She expects so much from him when he like her just the way she is.
This chapter always stood out to me the most in this book because it’s something that happens too often.
For almost my entire life i have seen girls dreaming of the “perfect guy” and guys dreaming of the “perfect girl”.
I see posts on my dash every single day that run along the lines of: “I want a guy who will hold my hand when i’m scared. A guy who will buy me roses and tell me i’m beautiful every single day. A guy who will kiss me in the rain and send me sweet texts. Someone who will have me on his mind 24/7…”
Then i hear guys at my school who just want someone to cook for them and have big boobs, be nice, and skinny.
I’m not going to say who the dellusional one is in this situation because to me, they’re a definate tie.
All girls have this image of who their prince charming is and it is complete bullshit. I promise you that maybe 1% of straight men on the face of the earth are like this. Maybe even less. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. It’s the truth.
Guys are human beings, not Edward Cullen or Holden Caulfield.
They have all the same flaws as girls, they’re just not as good as hiding them.
Girls have these unbelievably high standards for guys that they overlook the ones who like them just as much as their ideal man would.
And men.
Men are just as superficial as the opposite sex. Maybe even more. They do what we do. They overlook the ones who like them because they have these unrealist standards for their mate.
It just pisses me off that we all believe that our future partner will be the perfect person when in fact they won’t. That’s not how it works.
I think that’s why most relationships don’t work out. Because we all have these ridiculous expectations that no one can live up to.
There will be some jealousy, fights, bickering. It doesn’t mean that it won’t be worth it.
As a society we should get rid of the idea of perfect fucking robot companion and have the kids and teenagers of tomorrow have the idea in their head that their love will make them happy.
Because that’s all that matters.
Forget their flaws. Forget that they’re not Holden or Edward.
If they make you happy and if you love them then that’s all that matters
